People are demanding that law
protecting Gender identity and Gender expression in Ontario be
removed…
Okay, now I’m in a worse mood then
before, but the depression I woke up with for 3 days has changed to
anger. If you didn’t know Gender identity and Gender expression was
recently added to Human rights out here in Ontario back in 2012.
Meaning all forms of Trans are protected by law against harassment
and are allowed to enter areas that are deemed only for those of
their chosen gender, aka washrooms and community centres and what
have you. Also, you can now get your Birth certificates and other ID
changed to your chosen gender, instead of what the Doctor’s stamp you
with at birth. There is a lot of paper work, but it can be done.
Now I have talked many times about my
gender journey and my struggles with my identity over the years. No
matter how I dressed, male or female, I was called a “Trannie”,
even though I don’t consider myself trans…. There was just no way
of “fitting in” for me. It was only because of a nice butch/femme
group that I was able to figure out who I was all. Well now, the new
Human rights commission of Ontario has all gender identity covered.
Here is what is part of what this new law covers:
Under
the Ontario Human
Rights Code (the Code)
people are protected from discrimination and harassment because of
gender identity and gender expression in employment, housing,
facilities and services, contracts, and membership in unions, trade
or professional associations.
Gender
identity is
each person’s internal and individual experience of gender. It is
their sense of being a woman, a man, both, neither, or anywhere along
the gender spectrum. A person’s gender identity may be the same as
or different from their birth-assigned sex. Gender identity is
fundamentally different from a person’s sexual orientation.
Gender
expression is
how a person publicly presents their gender. This can include
behaviour and outward appearance such as dress, hair, make-up, body
language and voice. A person’s chosen name and pronoun are also
common ways of expressing gender.
Trans or transgender is
an umbrella term referring to people with diverse gender identities
and expressions that differ from stereotypical gender norms. It
includes but is not limited to people who identify as transgender,
trans woman (male-to-female), trans man (female-to-male),
transsexual, cross-dresser, gender non-conforming, gender variant or
gender queer.
I love that they cover all and this
line “being
a woman, a man, both, neither, or anywhere along the gender
spectrum.” Considering it states “gender non-conforming, gender
variant or gender queer.” under trans I guess I still qualify…
hmmm…
(edit: gee, there is a lot more on the Human rights on this page than I expected Makes me happy to see them fighting to correct myths and educate people.)
Keep reading more of my rant regarding this and my depression… sorry it is a little long…
Anyways, recently there has been this
kerfuffle due to a sexual predator using these new laws to dress as a
woman and enter woman’s areas to attack women. People are demanding
our rights to be removed to protect these woman for more predators.
The problem isn’t with us. Don’t point your fingers at an entire
community that has been beaten and killed because they are different
then the norm when it is one bloody predator that would find anyway
to attack woman even if this law was removed.
You want to know why I’m struggling so
much recently?. Because I can’t forget. I can’t get the beatings I
suffered because I was different out of my mind. I relive the abuse
from my parents and peers over and over again. Being chased down the
street everyday through out my school years. Too afraid to return
home bleeding and crying because of the punishments that I would
endure. Being pushed, shoved and punched as I walked down the halls.
Finding “Trannie” and “Dyke” written on my locker and desk.
Being expelled from school for being an instigator, even arrested for
the same reasons… Disowned by my family and spending nearly 2 years
in a mental hospital. Being ridiculed by the hospital staff… Even
getting insulted in Gay bars because I don’t fit into either
category, so didn’t belong. Being told to leave lesbian gatherings
because I was too much of a boi. Even losing all my friends because
of stupid rumors that people didn’t understand… I had no where to
turn and spent many of my years alone… just drawing…. I spend
nights shaking and crying because I can still hear those voices of my
abusers calling me names. I’m labeled as unstable and insane now. I
can’t even function normally and barely go outside anymore.
This is what my past few days have been
like. My psychotherapist retired 2 years ago and everything is just
building up on top of itself. I used to see him ever month for 10
years just to vent and get out a lot of this frustration. Now I just
struggling to get through one day at a time. Keeping myself busy by
drawing what I love… and curling up with my sweetie, the one person
who understands me and loves me for who I am, even with all my mental
issues she has stayed at my side longer than anyone else. If it
wasn’t for her I don’t know what I’d do. She got me back into drawing
after I quit all those years ago. She got me to write what I wanted,
instead of trying to please people. She’s the one who kicks me in the
ass when I’m slacking off.
There are also those of you who have
supported me through some very rough years, especially those of you who have supported my Patreon. I never forget all of
you. I actually feel guilty that I can’t draw more and better.
Hearing that my stories helped so many is one of the reasons I keep
writing and drawing, even when I feel like an emotional mess. If I
can just help a few of you so you don’t feel as alone in this insane
world as I did that is enough. Which is why I push through the
madness and continue to create. I could just quit and spend the rest
of my days gaming with my wife, but I need to create. I need to draw
and I need to fight for what I feel is right… I might not be able
to join protests anymore, but at least I still have this.
This is why I’m continuing with both
Setsuko’s Gender identity story in Inside OuT and Ayumi’s Asexual
story. I have focuses a lot of gay issues in my works. Inside OuT is
really the first time I’ve decided to focus on gender expression and
other issues. Some of stated they don’t like Setsuko’s story, but I
refuse to remove it. Others don’t like Ayumi being asexual, I’m
leaving that as well. I will continue these stories and more because
that is what I do. I might not be the best, but I do the best I can.
I might struggle from time to time, but
I always tend to spring back. Usually it is when something happens in
the Real World that pisses me off enough to fight the fog and get
back to what I feel is important. I’m not one to truly give up. I
just need to find my reason for getting up again and facing things.
Anyways, Sorry to rant like this…
back to work with me.
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